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Jan 12

I did not use the tape

Lovely day. Even the Committee on Greatest Day Ever, which meets quadrennially in a secure location in the Pyrenees, will be required to consider it for an international honorable mention. It only gets the purple ribbon because it is an especially cold day. This is unnecessary, and will be waited-out until a pleasant April day comes along.

Late breakfast at the Barbecue House, where the place was empty and thus the hash browns were plentiful. Mr. Price, if you’re keeping track, is back to not remembering me. He asked if we needed a menu. No thanks, I’ll just have the usual.

Stopped by world headquarters of The War Eagle Reader. We visited with one of Jeremy’s daughters, talked about tomorrow’s stories today and met Torch, official co-cat:

Torch

Later I visited Lowe’s, because they’ve offended me less than Home Depot. (The next time I need a hardware part I’ll visit Home Depot, because I hit up Lowe’s this time.) I needed to address an issue in the kitchen sink. Not the sink itself, but an attachment, that retractable spray hose. Not the spray hose, though, but rather the little plastic circle bracket it rests in.

The old one cracked in two before the holidays. I removed all of the cleaning supplies that live under the sink, crawled inside, reached around and through the various pipes and traced the hose up to where it attaches to the plumbing. There was no easy way to get to it, everything was by feel and felt awkward in every way. This was not going to be an easy task.

So at Lowe’s I walked around with the Confused Looked of Resignation until someone in a vest stumbled across my path. I’d been in three sections by then, when he asked “Can I help you find something?” I was surrounded by sinks at the time, but this was the wrong place to find a sink accessory attachment, which was four aisles away.

The good news, the gentleman told me, was that this is attached at the hose, not under the sink. That’s much better. But you have to buy both the nozzle and the flange. Used to be, he said, that you could buy just the flange, but no more. I picked up the cheapest one, which almost matched the one in our kitchen thinking, That might explain somethings.

There are instructions inside. On the outside it says you’ll need an adjustable wrench, adjustable pliers, needle nose pliers and pipe thread tape. I have the tools, or can make do, but I needed the tape. Found it two aisles over, nearer the sinks, so things are well organized. The tape cost $1.06.

Got home, where we had company. Visited for a while, talking of football and jobs and weddings and things.

Later we visited Target, where we received a gift card for Christmas. We decided to pick up frames and continue the house decorating. We walked out with seven frames, two of them will hold a trip we took to San Francisco four years ago. We framed a lithograph from Rome and two pieces from Greece, from our honeymoon two years ago. Good prints take time, you know. You have to study these things, consider them for taste and durability, before you commit them to a frame.

And then, like later tonight, there’s the pulling out the paper examples, replacing the mattes, cleaning the glass and making it all fit together again. And then there’s the difficulty of finding the proper wall. Where will the sun accentuate the proper setting? Will the ceiling fan reflect off this frame?

These are difficult questions.

Anyway. Saw this at Target:

Sign

In one swift, 8×10 motion the designer managed to offend at least two different groups of people. Keeping calm having to do with the Blitz, rocking on antithetical to the stiff upper lip of the English establishment. But when rock has become over-produced pop, and with rocking on now meaning a third thing entirely, we’re really just dumbing down the argument. There is no need, the artist suggests, to understand the origin of these expressions, their historical antecedents and how these two things are actually tied together by pushing against one another. Just appreciate the juxtaposition and this wicked awesome line art of a Flying V. And so it will be that a 13-year-old will have a cute, possibly ironic mantra for the Twilight generation.

Later still I returned to the sink fixture. Turned off the water, made the source pipe leak. Emptied the entire two cabinets in a hurry, mopped up the water, fixed the leak and carried on. The instructions tell you to remove the old sprayer, but not how. (It unscrews. Not to worry, though: I have an advanced education.)

Popped off the little clamp, removed the washers. Dropped one washer down the sink, where it fell perfectly through the drain.

Pull the hose out of the sink, putting the flange in place, feeding the hose back through. Insert the new washers, apply the new clamp. Screw on the new nozzle, turn on the water, give everything a try.

It works!

And then I completed reorganized the things under the cabinet.

Thing I’ll take the pipe thread tape back to the store. It never appeared in the directions, nor did any of the wrenches or pliers, so now I’ll be awake all night wondering if I’ve managed to manufactured by own leaky faucet.

Even still, wonderful day.


28
Nov 11

Back to it

The break is over. Reality returns. And so the emails are landing in my inbox, their replies whirring back again. I would like to find out one day how much time I spend in the various email accounts. I would like to find out and then immediately forget that piece of information.

When science gives us personal neuralizers, or flashy-thingies if you will, we’ll have really done something as a culture.

“I didn’t need to see that … ”

Flashy-thingie.

Of course we would need an idiot-proof these things for home use. One wrong move and you could zap away your entire education.

Anyway, it was a cold day, but I kept myself warm with grading.

It was also a dreary, but I brightened the day with, well, not much really. It was quite the dreary day. Nothing was fixing that. I don’t mind Mondays, but the dark by 3:45 Mondays I could do without. A big layer of dryer lint covered the sky from horizon to horizon all day long. Together the two, and a light drizzle, would have been utterly demoralizing.

So inside I stayed. Half the week’s class prep is done. There is still grading to do. It does pile up, all the things you ask students to do.

Our Friend Jim joined us for dinner, so we went out for corn nuggets at Niffer’s. He was in town to pick up a new mini-refrigerator for his new office. Or so he said. He picked one up last year, too. He says that the best place to get one is in a college town, which makes sense. But having the need for two of them, I suggested aloud, does sound a bit suspect.

You can’t make jokes about lining the inside of a refrigerator in public without people leaning in a bit harder. He defused the situation by letting it slip that he is an Alabama fan.

Ah. Well then. So long as he isn’t carrying Spike.

And everyone was relieved, returning to their meals.

Flashy-thingie.


24
Nov 11

The best game I’ve seen at Jordan-Hare

Holiday travels this week, so we’re padding this out with videos and memories. But there’s a theme! This is Iron Bowl week after all. So let’s talk about football all week. Happy Thanksgiving!

Photograph

Honestly, this entire week on the site has been an excuse to work up to this picture. (Also published, and well-received, on dearphotograph.com.) Since Thanksgiving is a day of family and friends, I’m putting it here.

The photograph was taken in the spring of my freshman year at Auburn. My mother brought my grandmother, and her lifelong friend to campus to visit. They toured the campus, saw the arboretum, took photographs with Tiger VI and even got to “sneak” inside the stadium.

They played a little tackle football, with my mother tackling her mother while Ms. Lucy was the quarterback and referee.

I love that picture, and this year at homecoming I took it into Jordan-Hare Stadium to take the picture of the picture. That’s almost precisely from the same spot, looking to the south end zone.

And what makes it especially nice, this new photograph, is that the two teams playing at homecoming were my alma mater, Auburn, which I love, and my employer, Samford University, of which I am also fond.

This is a charmed life, and so precious little of that has to do with football, but it is a neat way to mention it.

At the big Thanksgiving lunch today I offered the blessing for those that were there and those that cooked this delicious meal. I asked for us to take all of our free minutes of the day to consider the things for which we are thankful and I asked for our friends and loves ones who couldn’t be with us to be watched over and cared for in their absence.

On this day of giving thanks, it is foolish and whimsy to consider something as silly as football, even in a place where it stains the culture as it does here. We have so many things for which to be thankful. I hope you find yourself in a similar situation. And I want you to know I’m thankful for you — be you an old friend or casual search engine visitor — have a lovely day.


29
Oct 11

Ole Miss at Auburn

Big day today, as we head out to campus with the in-laws in tow. We tailgated with the nice folks from Gameday for Heroes. They’ve helped put donated tickets into the hands of more than 1,200 troops and their families this year. That’s a full infantry battalion. Just an amazing job they’ve done this year.

At the tailgate we saw Ken, for whom I worked at al.com. He was done on a campus tour with one of his kids. Ken graduated from Auburn with a master’s degree. His uncle attended Auburn. His great-grandfather was at Auburn before the Great War. And now another generation of their family maybe enrolling their next year.

We also saw our friend Wendy, who made it into town for the game. Her parents were there, and they’re lovely folks.

We made it into the stadium in time to find seats way up high in the end zone, watched the eagle flight, the band play and the football game unfold before us. Auburn ran out a 17-0 lead and found themselves tied at the end of a first half that felt very unsatisfying.

There was some question about what the second half might hold. Ole Miss had been outscored 77-21 in the 3rd quarter this year. Auburn was on the wrong side of a 55-40 equation for their season’s third quarter efforts. But the Tigers reeled off 24 unanswered points on their way to a 41-23 victory (that garbage time score by Ole Miss shouldn’t have even been allowed, technically). So the Tigers are 6-3, having escaped a murderous October with three wins — two of which were unexpected. Auburn is bowl eligible. Not bad for a team that started fall camp with 54 (!!!) freshmen on the roster. Twenty-one of them played in the season opener, the first collegiate game of their career.

That extra practice leading up to a bowl game is going to be a great addition to the 2012 prospects. But let’s not get ahead of things. There are still three more games to go in this year. And there are also pictures from Ole Miss.

Here’s T’Sharvan Bell, after intercepting a Randall Mackey pass and returning it 41 yards, setting up an Auburn field goal:

Bell

At least his hand is in focus.

Aubie had fun with Ole Miss’ rebellious mascot issue.

Aubie

Kiehl Frazier carries for a minimal gain. Defenses are keying on him when he’s in the game. The freshman quarterback is going to have to stand up and throw the ball eventually.

Frazier

Dyer found his way into the end zone on this score.

Dyer

He finished the night 13th all time in school rushing. He’s on pace to finish the year 10th. He’s a sophomore, at Running Back U. He’s that good.

The Yankee and her parents, enjoying the game:

fans

More from the game tomorrow.


17
Oct 11

… Any road will take you there

” … wants to be friends with you on Facebook” was sitting in my inbox this morning.

But they should send these with a greater nod to suspense. I’m already friends with everyone that a.) I know today who b.) wants to be my friend and c.) is on Facebook.

A new invitation is either spam, which isn’t exciting, a mistake, which may as well be spam or some new person I’ve recently met. I haven’t made any new acquaintances in the last few days.

This leaves one possibility: some old person.

Of course you know that in the first two words of the email. There’s the name, and the higher part of the brain speaks with the lower part of the brain, and they conference in the memory section and the assessment nodule for a big decision. Is this a person? The person? Shall we be friends? That is to say, make it digitally official, because permission has been sought.

Go up to the next person you meet that you like and say “I want to be your friend,” while holding up a “Confirm” button. It can’t me any more awkward an interaction, but I digress.

In the first tow words, the name of this person, you know. And I knew this name, even as it was a slightly shortened version for the man of the boy I once knew. After I pushed the little blue button and spent a few seconds looking through his profile and the first two or three pictures I was sure. Same guy. By then you know what the person is doing with their life.

Now. If you’d approached me any time within the last 10 years and told me what his job would be I would have thought “Yeah, well, that figures.”

Which makes you wonder. How often do career paths and life choices surprise you when you discover lost people online?

Most everyone I’ve stumbled upon, or sought out, seem to be doing well for themselves. There are lots of young families, successes and just a few difficult-sounding jobs. Most of them just seem to be in the places you would expect. That’s not uninteresting, for some that’s just knowing which path takes us where you need to be.

I suspect the online platforms have reshaped reunions. No one has to be surprised, anymore, about what became of anyone else, how they look and if they’re still with that dolt they wasted their time on when they were young and foolish and —

I just discovered a Facebook page about my high school. The theme is “You know you went here if.” Most of it is banal or beyond prosaic. One comment says “If you assumed school was closed on the first day of hunting season.”

Before that you can find a post for people who still live in that community alerting parent/alumni to watch out for a green truck that seems to be lurking near a truck stop. There’s also a death list. A few people have developed a master list of people that have died. A grim and valuable service, no doubt.

Ha. I love this. That community was basically two parallel roads, and in between was the school and a set of railroad tracks. Probably half of the student body had to cross the tracks to make it to school every day. There was an old gentleman who lived right next to the tracks. Just found a note about him. Once my mother insisted we take him a little fruit basket, and now I’m very glad she thought of that:

He was my grandfather. Everyone just doesn’t know what it meant to him for all of the kids to go by and wave to him. He passed away in 92.

He’d sit on his porch every morning and afternoon in his co-op cap and overalls and wave. If it rained, or he did not feel well, he would wave from one of his windows. He’s been gone 20 years. His house has been gone for almost as long, but judging by those comments generations of people think of him every time they have to slow down for those railroad tracks.

That’s enough Facebook for this month.

Class prep today. I wrote a terrific lecture on photojournalism. As an experiment I’m blending pictures I’ve taken with pictures working photojournalists have shot. We’ll see how many times I’m found out. I’m guessing: each time.

Think I’ll mention this, too:

Justin Elliott writes that The Washington Post “chose an image of a bearded protester seeming to assault a cop to illustrate a movement that has been overwhelmingly — almost without exception — nonviolent.” The image shows an Occupy Wall Street protester with his arm around a police officer’s neck. Andrew Burton, the freelance photographer who captured the image, tells Elliott that he doesn’t know what sparked the confrontation and that due to the melee he didn’t even know he had captured that image until later. The ”vast majority of the protests have been incredibly peaceful,” Burton says.

And people think confrontation is news, mostly because it is. But is it representative? The debate continues.

There’s also a current events quiz, featuring exactly no questions about Occupy Wall Street. I would pass it, says the guy who wrote the thing, but it won’t be an easy one to take if you hadn’t been reading or watching the news.

A new section of the site:

books

These are some of my grandfather’s books. I inherited them a few years ago, and have been scanning a few of the images inside his old texts. Figured they’d make an interesting section, so here we begin. Just a few pages a week, starting with the English literature textbook. Some are intended to be funny, others insightful. Hopefully you’ll find them all interesting, especially if you have a taste in 60 year old books.

There’s a small tidbit in this book that will come up in a few weeks that show my grandfather’s road from a young age, too.

This post was written while listening to the George Harrison documentary. There’s a moment with an archival Harrison interview were he talks about the “inward journey” of meditation and “far out” in the same sentence. There is, of course, an overwhelming discussion on the drugs, and a dire need for a razor and sharp scissors, but that’s just the period. (Hah, here’s a history of the band in hairstyles. They were so in tune with the universe back then, you know.) I recommend the documentary …

… even if Phil Spector is in it.